I don’t care if you’re a stay at home mom or if you work outside the home. This mom thing can be really brutal.
My oldest daughter (23) called me on the fourth day of her new nannying job and said “I always wanted to have my kids close together in age like me and Amanda because we’ve always been so close, but my word! How did you do this?!” She’s watching two little girls, 3 years old and 4 months old.
The 4 month old didn’t want to be put down - AT ALL - and the 3 year old wanted my daughters undivided attention - NOW - all day long. LOL. That night she told her boyfriend “If we ever have kids, I’m not working. That is a full time job!” Don’t we all know it!
My youngest daughter (now 20) painted this for me on my birthday
It was nice to be recognized for all the hard work - especially by one of the people who caused it! 😂 But it made me remember what an accomplishment it was just to get them both dressed, in the car seats, out of the car seats, into the grocery store, do all the shopping - carefully avoiding the candy aisle - check out (thank you stores for putting candy I can’t avoid at the check stands so I can irritate my kids every shopping trip by telling them “no”, they can’t have that candy bar), pay for your groceries, do the car seat thing again to get back home, get both girls inside and occupied so I could bring in all the groceries without them getting into some life threatening situation like finding a penny or a button or some other seemingly benign item. All this was just another ‘day in the life’ back then, but I feel exhausted just remembering it now.
As moms, we are on alert 24 hours a day, seven days a week and it isn’t all candy and flowers. Some days you’re not popular with your little angels but you still have to give your all. On those days, being able to see your family portrait on the wall can remind you how amazing these little people are and what a great job you’re doing.
One of my clients told me that when she looks at her family portraits on the wall it reinforces the fact that she and her husband were destined to be together and raise those beautiful boys they have. That they are doing exactly what they are meant to be doing.
Family portraits, displayed on your walls solidifies the wonderfulness of your family on those rough days when you - fleetingly - wonder what on earth you’ve gotten yourself into.
When you’re ready, let’s chat about how we can create your very own daily motivation.
In the meantime, just know you’re doing an amazing job! Take time to re-energize yourself so you can continue to give it your all. Take some “you” time. A glass of wine and a book by the fire or a bubble bath (yes, Mr. Bubble works fine) and your favorite music, or a night out with your besties!
In case no one has told you today, you're doing an amazing job!!